So if you’re confused about your wedding processional order, and have questions about that, today we’re here to help, First I’m going to give you permission to do it differently, after all, it’s your wedding, so I’ll tell you what tradition is, but if you want to do it a little differently and personalize it go ahead after all it’s your wedding anyway.
How to Arrange Your Wedding Processional.
So first let’s talk about grandparents, if you have grandparents for both the groom and the bride, just think about the rule in ballroom dancing the male leads so in this case the male’s family will lead, so you’re gonna put the groom’s grandparents before the bride’s grandparents in your wedding processional you can also remember the rule that the male leads if you have two sets of grandparents for, let’s say the groom you put the paternal grandparents, the grandparents from the father’s side first because males family leads in and then you would put the groom’s grandparents from his mother’s side of the family next in line.
This rule also works if you have anybody that might be divorced or divorced and remarried if the groom’s parents are divorced you’re gonna pick the groom’s father first in line and the groom’s mother would be second both with escorts, so that’s actually how it goes grandparents first groom’s grandparent’s brad’s grandparents and then the groom’s parents would be next, and here’s a little tip of where I really like to customize and personalize the ceremony, when you’re doing the processional, everybody worries about how the bride gets down the aisle but seldom do we make a big deal about the groom I love it right here at this moment if the groom, actually gets to walk his mother down the aisle because it’s a special moment for her, and after all moms absolutely love it.
In the case where you have the groom’s father showing up on the day as well what you would do is dad would walk right behind the groom, and his mother kind of in the middle so that way their faces can all be seen by the photographer or if your aisle is wide you could personalize it even more and let everybody walk down the aisle side by side the next person after the groom’s parents would be the mother of the bride, in this case, the father of the bride if he’s walking the bride down the aisle mom’s gonna need an escort, I suggest any
escort that might be a close family member first before you stick mom with the random groomsman, trust me she’ll appreciate it.
Once the groom is down the aisle there’s a couple of things that he could choose for his groomsmen to walk in one you can do what I call a wolf pack, which is where all the groomsmen enter all at once, in this case tradition shows that it should be the groom that’s standing at the groomsmen that’s standing the furthest away from the altar would enter first, if they’re going down the aisle or if they’re entering from the right like a traditional church wedding, the groom’s would walk in best man first all the way down to the groomsmen that’s standing the furthest from the altar I like to keep the best man close with the groom no matter how they walk in, just so when they’re standing in line together right before he’s getting married his best friends with him next would be the bridesmaids, so of course your option is to have the bridesmaids and groomsmen enter and in pairs, but if they’re gonna enter in individually, you would have the bridesmaid that is starting furthest from the altar walking first, and keep the maid of honor close to the bride again right before they’re getting ready to walk down the aisle.
I like to keep your best friend close if they’re walking in in pairs, actually, the same order is true if you have an odd number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, this is another opportunity to personalize your processional and get a little creative, you can partner two girls walking in together the maid of honor can walk in by yourself or a guy can have a girl on either arm.
Next, it’s time for the ring bearers and then the flower girls to walk down the aisle if you have really young children in your professional, you might be better off if you let them walk together versus separately, that way they’re less intimidated by the crowd and they’re more likely to actually make it to the altar.
Finally, it’s time for the bride to walk down the aisle traditionally the bride is walked down by her father but if the dad’s not going to be there today up, that’s totally okay you have three different options to choose from, the first option would be to choose another male that’s important in your life to walk you down, so, for example, this could be an uncle a brother or just a close friend, your next option would be to have a mom walk you down the aisle instead this way you still have a parent walking you in, and then the third and final option is to walk that aisle like it’s a runway and walk down by yourself.
I hope I was able to help you figure out a little bit about your wedding processional order, and if you need any more expert wedding planning advice just follow our other posts for more.