Today I want to talk about bridesmaids and groomsmen wedding party and why you don’t need to have one especially if you feel like you can’t afford one, I’m going to tell you how to have a wedding without a wedding party.
How to have a wedding without friends
First of all, you don’t you absolutely don’t need to have a wedding party or if you’re going to have a wedding party you don’t have to do it in this traditional or expected kind of way and what I mean by that is you could have a mixed gendered wedding party.
If you want you can have some of your best guy friends your brothers be standing with you on your side as your bridesmaids, whatever you want to call them your grooms your bride’s men you could have a mixed age bridal party, if you wanted to do that if you have like aunties or your grandma you want them and your bridal party like who’s to say that we have to have a group of young women around the same age as us and only women in our bridal party you really can do whatever you want you can mix this up do what suits you best and if that means not having a bridal party at all, great do that some of the reasons to not have a bridal party are of course the expenses so you will have heard lots of stories and probably maybe have experienced this for yourself where you’re put in the position of either attending a wedding as a bridesmaid and spending close to sometimes a thousand dollars when all is said and done in terms of the bachelorette party the gifts that you give the bride the dress and the shoes and like just everything that goes into being a bridesmaid.
You can spend a lot of money and then if you have several weddings within one or two years you can absolutely go broke being a bridesmaid so you’re actually doing your friends a favor by deciding not to have a bridal party in many respects.
I’ve heard wedding advice given to bridesmaids who were having a hard time spent like affording weddings I’ve heard terrible advice from people online that was like
“don’t upset the bride don’t tell her that you can’t afford this” and I totally disagree with the sentiment, I think if you can’t afford something you have to be really honest you have to tell the bride.
What I’m trying to say and this comes from someone who has been a bridesmaid many times and who has loved being a bridesmaid and like and I’m not knocking it at all it’s just that it’s gotten out of control I think I don’t feel like people should have to feel this pressure on either side to spend all of this money to be in a wedding or to put their friends in that position.
It’s just like it’s I think it’s asking too much to be honest often when you ask somebody to be your bridesmaid they’re also not going to say no to you because they love you and they want you to be happy so it’s hard because you’re put in this position where you need to be spending a lot of money because you just like couldn’t say no to your best friend’s.